Circlusion: Revolutionize Your Sexuality by Listening to Your Body
- cloebeaumer
- Sep 23
- 5 min read
Updated: Sep 24
I would like to introduce you to a concept that, when put into practice, could drastically change your sexuality (for the better, of course).
CIRCLUSION
During my somatic intimacy training, I shared my discomfort with the word penetration. For me, it carries an idea of passive/active, something intrusive that doesn’t feel right.
In that moment, I realized I wasn’t the only one who felt this way. It was also the first time I heard the term circlusion — a word that offered a different perspective, much closer to what I used to call “swallowing.”
The term circlusion is quite recent: it was introduced in 2016 by Bini Adamczak in a German magazine.
What does that mean in practical terms?
Just imagine that when you make love, it's not a penis/finger/object penetrating a vagina/anus, but a vagina/anus encircling a penis/finger/object, surrounding it and inviting it to enter when the time is right.
Beyond Words: A Revolution in Consent
Penetration is not a trivial act, even though it is completely normalized, even trivialized. However, having something inserted into your body requires preparation, openness, and acceptance that cannot be forced.
More concretely, in practice, circlusion means that the person receiving the penis/finger/object is completely in control of the speed, timing, and manner of receiving. It is their body that decides the rhythm, depth, and intensity. It is their body that guides, invites, welcomes, says no, maybe, not yet, or yes.
This approach radically transforms sexual dynamics. Instead of an action that is endured (even with consent), circlusion places agency, the power to act, in the receiving body. There is no longer passivity, but active and conscious participation.
It's an embodied intimacy approach that honors the body's natural rhythm and places bodily consent at the center of every exchange.
Take a breath
Can you feel the difference?
Can you feel what it does to your body when, instead of penetrating or being penetrated, you are circled or you circle?
I think the difference is significant.
The difference lies in “who decides.” The body or the mind?
Just one word. And yet... simply by focusing our awareness on the meaning of the word, a whole paradigm shifts.
The Original Definition
Here is the first paragraph of the article published in 2016.
To read the entire article, follow this link:
"I wish to propose to you a new term, one that has been missing for a long time: “circlusion,” or, if you prefer a purer latinate, “circumclusion.” It denotes the antonym of penetration. It refers to the same physical process, but from the opposite perspective. Penetration means pushing something––a shaft or a nipple––into something else––a ring or a tube. Circlusion means pushing something––a ring or a tube––onto something else––a nipple or a shaft. The ring and the tube are rendered active. That’s all there is to it."
Listening to the Body
I am not writing this article to say that we should no longer use the term penetration or that all penetration is necessarily intrusive, but simply to bring this image and understanding to your awareness: the body knows exactly when it is ready to receive. Slow down so that you and your partner can listen to it. And sometimes it will never be ready. Respect that. And open yourself up to what may exist then.
Penetration is not a trivial act, and it is neither a necessity nor an obligation for an intimate, connected, and pleasurable experience.
As a certified conscious sexuality practitioner in Luxembourg, I regularly support individuals seeking to break free from these patterns and rediscover more authentic intimacy.
Why is this a paradigm shift for your sexuality?
Towards a More Conscious Sexuality
This change in vocabulary invites a subtle but profound revolution. It leads us to question our automatic responses, our expectations, and our preconceived sexual scripts. It invites us to explore a sexuality where each body is an actor in its own pleasure, where consent becomes a fluid dance rather than a simple authorization.
Circlusion reminds us that sexuality is an art of encounter, not a performance. It invites us to slow down, to feel, to listen to the subtle dialogue between bodies as they discover and get to know each other.
From Theory to Experience: Your Intimate Laboratory
So now that you've read all this, you may be wondering, “That's all well and good, but how do I actually do it?”
The truth is that this paradigm shift in your sexuality won't happen by reading ten more articles on the subject. It will happen through your own experience. I could continue to write beautiful words, but that would be stealing time from you that would be much more valuable if you used it to experiment.
Revolutionize your sexuality by listening to your body with these simple but revolutionary suggestions.
By slowing down. Yes, really. As if you were discovering this body for the first time. By communicating what you feel, what you need, what emerges. By breathing deeply to stay connected to your sensations. By creating space—mental, physical, temporal—so that something new can emerge.
By giving your body permission to guide you. Let it take the reins. It knows things your head doesn't yet know. Trust it, even if it feels unusual, even if it's different from what you've always done.
By inviting your partner to listen to this receptive body and tune into it. Not as a passive spectator, but as a dance partner who adapts to the rhythm you set.
By becoming aware of your beliefs about sexuality—those invisible scripts that guide your actions without you realizing it. What do you think you “have” to do? What is “normal”? Where do these ideas come from?
And above all: slow down. Take the time to feel every millimeter of this circlusion. Every sensation, every micro-movement, every subtle dialogue between your bodies.
And then, once you feel that you have slowed down, slow down even more. And invite each of your thoughts, emotions, and sensations to join you on this journey.
Because ultimately, circlusion isn't just a new word—it's an invitation to reinvent the way you inhabit your body and encounter others.
What if you didn't feel like exploring alone?
Okay, let's be honest: reading an article about sexuality from your couch is comfortable. But transforming your intimate life... that takes a little more courage.
If you feel like your body has exciting things to reveal to you but you've been going around in circles for months, we could explore that together.
In individual sessions or in my workshops, we'll deconstruct your outdated beliefs and create a meaningful dialogue with your sensations. At your own pace, without judgment, without taboos.
Because sometimes, all it takes is a little gentle guidance to take the plunge.
This transformation toward embodied intimacy requires patience and self-compassion throughout the journey.
If something resonates with you, if you want to know more, don't hesitate to contact me. Your sexuality deserves your attention, your curiosity, your tenderness.
Your body is waiting for you.
And who knows? Maybe in a few months, you'll write to me to tell me how circlusion has transformed the way you love...
# Circlusion: A Paradigm Shift for Your Sexuality
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